6. Never Humiliate or Demean Your Spouse in Public.
It is never acceptable to humiliate your spouse in public. I don’t care how angry or upset you are, you wait until you get home. You deal with your concerns in private first.
If the issue is not being resolved after several attempts, I believe you should speak to a minister or marriage counsellor. But you must never get into a fighting bout in a public place.
That’s because it creates an impression that cannot be erased from people’s minds. Even after you’ve resolved the issue that caused the blow-out, people are going to remember how you disgraced yourselves.
Secondly, your spouse may find it extremely difficult to overlook or forgive you for such a provoking incident.
Thirdly, you would be shaming the name of the One you claim to represent. If, for example, you are a practising Christian, your actions would reflect badly on the Christ you claim to represent.
I remember trying so hard, a few years ago, to get a husband to forgive his wife for shaming him in front of his landlord and his mother-in-law. He couldn’t do it. He said the pain was just too much; and after many hours of counselling, he went ahead and separated from his wife.
They had been married for less than three years. And, to show how angry he was, he began to expose his wife’s past mistakes to the authorities concerned and applied for custody of their 18 month old child.
If you are the man in the marriage, your duty is to love your wife. If you are the lady, you are called to honour and respect your husband. Well, to do that, you cannot afford to humiliate each other in private – not to talk of in public. Don’t do it! You will live to regret it.
Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional – Max Lucade
...To be continued next week.
Extracts from KEYS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE...
Written by Pastor Tony Peters.
It is never acceptable to humiliate your spouse in public. I don’t care how angry or upset you are, you wait until you get home. You deal with your concerns in private first.
If the issue is not being resolved after several attempts, I believe you should speak to a minister or marriage counsellor. But you must never get into a fighting bout in a public place.
That’s because it creates an impression that cannot be erased from people’s minds. Even after you’ve resolved the issue that caused the blow-out, people are going to remember how you disgraced yourselves.
Secondly, your spouse may find it extremely difficult to overlook or forgive you for such a provoking incident.
Thirdly, you would be shaming the name of the One you claim to represent. If, for example, you are a practising Christian, your actions would reflect badly on the Christ you claim to represent.
I remember trying so hard, a few years ago, to get a husband to forgive his wife for shaming him in front of his landlord and his mother-in-law. He couldn’t do it. He said the pain was just too much; and after many hours of counselling, he went ahead and separated from his wife.
They had been married for less than three years. And, to show how angry he was, he began to expose his wife’s past mistakes to the authorities concerned and applied for custody of their 18 month old child.
If you are the man in the marriage, your duty is to love your wife. If you are the lady, you are called to honour and respect your husband. Well, to do that, you cannot afford to humiliate each other in private – not to talk of in public. Don’t do it! You will live to regret it.
Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional – Max Lucade
...To be continued next week.
Extracts from KEYS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE...
Written by Pastor Tony Peters.
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