Words are powerful. That’s why the Bible is full of directives concerning the way we communicate or use words. Many of us tend to think that, because we use words casually, the things we say are of little consequence.
But according to the Bible, our words (the significant ones and the ones we consider unimportant) are all recorded in heaven. That means we are responsible for them. It means that we will be asked to account for them.
We would be asked to explain why we had to use words that discourage, words that defile, words that defame, or words that wound. There would be no need to record our words if they were not important.
Consider Proverbs 18:21, which says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
We all know the pain of harsh words spoken to us. Careless, insensitive speech cause some of our deepest wounds, and many people live in families where words are used as weapons. Sarcasm, criticism, verbal abuse, shame, and anger—these kinds of words bring death. They can be part of a negative, relationship-killing arsenal.
The enemy loves nothing more than to turn a house into a verbal war zone. When these environments are created, a husband and wife will suffer. So will their children. Negative communication can literally destroy their testimony and their home.
James 3:4 compares the tongue to a small rudder that steers a mighty ship. Though a rudder seems insignificant compared to the rest of the ship, everything depends on it for the ship to get where it is going.
However, as easily as words can kill, they can also bring life. With our mouths we can bless. We can encourage. We can heal. We can communicate love and affection. If we learn to submit our tongues to God, He will help us. He will tame our speech, so that it always edifies and never crushes.
Positive communication is powerful.
The first step towards building an atmosphere of healthy words is realizing that every single word you speak has incredible power. Once you become conscious of this truth every waking moment, you will watch what you say more carefully.
Question! Will your words bring life or cause death? Will they build up or tear down? Moment by moment, that choice is yours.
Submit your speech to the Lord.
Dedicate your mouth to being a vessel for his healing, hope, and encouragement. The mouth that produces a successful, healthy marriage and family is one that is constantly submitted to the Lord. Do it daily. Do it hourly if you must. But do it until your get results.
Idle words, negative words, abusive words and demeaning words are sins for which Jesus Christ died. If you are a child of God, each time you use these types of words, you are 'nailing' Christ to the cross again - so to speak. You are disgracing him and misrepresenting him too.
Your tongue will determine the direction of your life. The words you speak to your partner or your children will impact your relationships on a large scale. Every area of family life requires healthy communication for success.
So, never forget how serious and weighty your words are; and work at speaking positive, uplifting and godly words no matter what's happening around you.
Ask God to help you and your family learn to speak to each other with kind and uplifting words. Ask Him to transform your language into a praising, healing, loving, fountain of life.
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